│IT'S NOT OK TO BODY SHAME│GIRL POWER │OCTOBER 2014 │♥│

I have been wanting to do a post on this topic for a while... I have thought of many ways to get my point across. But it's hard to ensure that you do not offend anybody, and it is important to get your point across perfectly - not in a complicated, riddle-like manner. Many things have been hitting the headlines recently, such as Victoria Secrets "Perfect Body", Topshop mannequins and even Megan Trainor's song, "all about that bass". All of these recent events have been the inspiration behind this posts, and my thoughts behind it. 

Firstly, girls already have it hard enough on the pressure to be perfect, in a mans point of view. Unfortunately, we all have imperfections. As do men do also. Nobody is perfect. Everyone gets the odd spot, bit of cellulite and stretch marks - my stomachs covered in them due to a combination of rapid weight gain and rapid weight loss, caused by years of fad diets (which I completely do not recommend, i learned the hard way!). We all have to accept the fact that we are imperfect, and we should also accept the fact that is is ok to have parts that we don't like. If you can change it, and if it would make you happy, then do that. If that spot is getting on your nerve, you put toothpaste on it. If they stretch marks make you feel uneasy about being around your partner wearing very little, you go and buy that bio-oil. Strive to be happy, not to be perfect.

Taking that into consideration and the fact we have all body hang ups... Why do girls insist on bringing other girls down? I do not want to go all crazy feminist on you, but for years we have been struggling in the world, we weren't actually allowed to vote in political elections this time only 100 years ago. It's time that we all united as the one force.  I for one, do not believe in the "perfect body". It's no secret  - I am plus sized. You would never see me making comments such as "only dogs like bones" and "go eat a burger". There are parts of a slim petite girl i'd love to have - i'd love to have legs that go on for days. Maybe, a slim petite girl out there would love to have the hour glass figure and big boobs that I have. One thing I really cannot stand is girls bringing down other girls. Nothing angers me more than cruel body shaming comments, getting passed on from girl to girl. 

I do not agree with promotions such as Victoria Secret's "perfect body" campaign (it's not the first time this company has received bad press over their body shaming ways and digs), and although Megan Trainor's song is quite catchy, I'm not feeling too pleased about "tell them skinny bitches that". FYI, just because you're skinny, it doesn't mean you're a bitch. Although, you are a complete bitch if you body shame girls. I truly believe in campaigns such as the DOVE campaign, celebrating "real women", and Gok Wan's "real women". These "real women" are from all different walks of life. Some are caucasian, some are black, some are Asian, some are tall, some are small, some are skinny, some are plus sized, some are athletic, some are in-between, some are old, some are young, some are healthy, and some suffer from life threatening conditions and disabilities. These are the real women(and any other factor I have missed out!). 

Furthermore, I do not believe that men only have one idea of perfect. Believe it or not, men are human too. And like all humans, men have opinions and preferences. I have a "type" of guy that I like, and men are allowed to have a "type" of female that they find attractive. Girls need to stop forcing men into finding their particular appearance attractive. It may be hard for some of you body shamers to believe, but some guys adore very plus sized girls, on the other hand, some guys prefer slim petite girls. Let men choose what they find attractive. Sure, good looks will attract the attention, but personality counts also. Ultimately, your personality defines how truly beautiful you are. It doesn't matter if you resemble Megan Fox or Mila Kunis, if you're a bitch - you will be dropped and nobody will be interested. 

I believe that all girls body types are beautiful. As mentioned before, i'd die to have luscious long legs, instead of fat tree stumps. But then again, I appreciate and enjoy being busty! I'm a true believer in health and happiness. If you are drastically underweight, you are putting your life at risk. The exact same as being drastically overweight - you are putting your life at risk. That doesn't give anybody the right to speak negatively, or anybody the right to talk about it, at all. People need to also realise that their may be a reason for being underweight, or overweight. And that reason, is none of YOUR business.

Right now, in 2014, I think it's time that we put a stop to body shaming other girls. Imagine if the tables were turned, would you like a girl making snide comments at you? You wouldn't would you? So stop doing it to other people. It's not fair. It's depressing. You don't know how that person is feeling, or the reason behind the way that they "look". That comment you just made about a girl with spots? Maybe she suffers from acne, and is already self concious enough about it. The comment you made about a skinny girl? Maybe she already has underlying emotional and mental conditions. 

Thank you for taking the time to read this, and remember, you are all beautiful. Stay happy and healthy xoxoxox

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